thoughts on life and love

Its been quite a normal week for me since my last update…of course, normal is relative and my normal means a typical JC students life…work, stress, work, sleep(optional). Of course, I’m probably exaggerating. As of the moment, I’m still waiting for Shawn that %$!* >?{“!($& to send me his part of the WR…

Today, I went to the airport with the intent of studying but I couldn’t find a seat either at Starbucks of The Coffee Bean so I ended up wandering aimlessly before I decided to go home. But as I was walking around, I had some strange, philosophical thoughts…I blame KI for that.

What I thought of was that in life, we are all actually very much alone. We only reach out at times to others then retreat back to our own bubble that is our life. When I considered it more closely, its actually true. While you can say that you have many friends, if constant contact is not maintained, you actually break off from them. Think of people you knew in the 1st 3 months in JC who went on to other institutions. How many have you not seen in weeks? And how many have you lost contact with since the ‘o’ level results came out or even before that?

If you go further back in time to your secondary or even your primary school, how many people can you truly remember if you haven’t seen them since you graduated? For all you know, you can walk past them on the street and if they changed hairstyle, wore contacts or made some other appearance changes, you would never be able to recognize them as that annoying person who sat behind you in P4.

Think now of the friends you have and then imagine the future. Do you honestly think that, barring them joining your university course, you would ever meet up with them 10 years down the road? More likely, you would be hanging out with your colleagues, or for guys, with your NS buddies. The only likely time to get together would be alumni dinners or weddings. But as time goes by, even those would be replaced by other people until you’re old and senile. Simply, you came into this world alone and you would leave this world alone.

Yet, one bond will keep people linked together, maybe for eternity. Love. Love will link your parents and you, your siblings and you, maybe even your spouse and you. So I say trust in love, trust in its existence and the certainty that you can and will find it, because love will link people to you and you to people for the rest of your life and maybe beyond that. As Nicholas Sparks wrote in The Notebook “maybe we’ve lived a thousand lives before this one and in each of them we’ve found each other. And maybe each time, we’ve been forced apart for the same reasons. That means that this goodbye is both a good bye for the past ten thousand years and a prelude to what will come.”